Are you comfortable being authentic with those around you?


How do you know if your desire to spend time alone or with people is right for you or not?


Who are the 5 people you spend the most time with and what do they earn?


Is what they earn even important to you?


A lady asked a question in my Facebook group around finding people that she could be authentic with and the famous quote that’s thrown around in the self-development world, which is


“You are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with” – Someone desperately trying to sell you something


Concerned that she doesn’t actually have five people to spend time with and what that means for her. So from her question I ask you those above.


In this episode I give my take on this oh so famous saying and help you to understand that being authentic with yourself first is the key to finding people who you resonate with. The desire to be alone, be it from time to time or for the most part, isn’t alien and shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing. It can be quite rejuvenating and is a natural desire for us; tracing back to when Jesus walked the earth. He, himself spent 40 days alone, Jesus could walk on water, heal people and do all these other amazing things; and he spent time alone. Let’s think about that for a second…


Spending time with someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you will take on their traits and absorb their behaviours or financial status. It really doesn’t just work like that. So there’s no need to panic if you’ve been racking you’re brain trying to figure out how to drop that broke friend who you really like 😛 .  I talk about those I spend most of my time with having a really nurturing energy and I don’t have a nurturing bone in my body but I haven’t become anymore nurturing spending time around nurturing people.


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I would love to hear your take on this topic and what you feel is right for you individually. Comment, like and ask questions about the episode on iTunes. Jump in the Facebook Group Self Awareness with Duke to ask and comment away.


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Can’t wait to hear from you and see you in the next episode.


Enjoy the show guys!

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